Only in the dictionary will you find success before work and not anywhere else. Why is this important to understand? All of us need to know that if we want something good, we have to work at it. The same goes for a happy marriage. Who said marriage is easy? It is not the stuff of fairytales. Even if you marry the love of your life, it is still going to require adjustments and compromises on both your parts. If even one of you refuses to budge, it could lead to fights and may eventually break your relationship. This is not something you want. So, what should you do to have a happy marriage?
Listed below are some great tips that strengthen your marriage and turns it into a source of bliss and happiness:
Build trust in your marriage
Remember that there is no relationship that can survive without trust. Your marriage needs to be built on trust and faith in each other. Rough patches are common in marriages, but you shouldn’t do things that can weaken your relationship. For instance, flirting with members of the opposite sex should be kept to a minimum. You need to show your love to each other and remain faithful. Build trust in a manner that even if someone claims they saw your partner with someone else, you can say with surety that they were mistaken.
Learn from your experiences
Over the course of marriage, it is easy for both of you to figure out the things that you should or shouldn’t do. For instance, if the mention of a certain person gets your spouse all riled up, you should avoid mentioning them. Likewise, if you tend to get snappy and angry when you are tensed or hungry, you should avoid talking to your partner in order to prevent fights. Even these small measures can go a long way in keeping your marriage together.
Show respect by being attentive
Ignoring your partner is disrespectful. You need to listen to them when they are talking and really hear what they are saying. There cannot be a happy marriage without mutual respect. When you are giving your spouse undivided attention, it shows that you respect them and listen to them. It also indicates that you value what they say and it is important to you. In case you are doing something else, you can tell them to wait for a while so you can pay full attention rather than listen absentmindedly.
Participate in some fun activities
You should make a list of fun things both of you can do together and then cull out the time to actually do them. These can be mutually enjoyable projects such as competitions or even simple activities like going for walks together or exercising together. It can be anything you want; the only prerequisite is that both of you have fun while doing it. Spending time with each other and enjoying the company is going to go a long way in helping you have a solid and happy marriage.
Forget the phrase ‘I told you so’
How do you feel when someone tells you ‘I told you so’? Doesn’t it fill you with rage until you feel smoke coming out of your ears? Can you imagine the impact of this phrase on your marriage? Yes, it is going to destroy it. Therefore, you need to eliminate it from your vocabulary completely. Sure, you did tell them so, but there is no point in rubbing it in. Instead, you can console your spouse, offer some encouragement and support so they don’t feel bad.