One of the hardest things that almost everyone encounters in a long-term relationship is that the ‘new relationship energy’ or the ‘initial spark’ as it is commonly known, fades. This is a completely natural aspect of settling into a relationship; obviously, you cannot be in the honeymoon phase throughout your life. This means that something goes from being exciting and intense to placid and calm. For a lot of couples, this slide into the calm is a sign that your relationship is moving towards a downward spiral and is going to end. Yes, the practicalities of life tend to get in the way, but this doesn’t mean that you cannot recapture the feelings you once had for each other.
You have to put some time and effort and you will be able to fall back in love with your better half all over again. Are you ready to do that? If yes, you can read on to know what to do:
Learn about each other’s needs
Just because you have been partners for a long time doesn’t mean that you can read each other’s minds. It is best for both of you to state your needs explicitly so you don’t get frustrated with each other. Try to have a conversation where you learn about each other’s expectations and can understand them better. Once you know what the needs are, you need to be sensitive about them and make an effort to fulfill them as much as you can. Remember that this needs to be done from both sides for it to work.
Establish a proper process to manage conflicts
There is absolutely no relationship that can go on without conflicts. Sure, you can try and avoid them as much as you can, but eventually the can is going to burst and everything will spew out. Therefore, it is better for you to figure out a way to manage conflicts in a healthy way. Bear in mind that this can be different for every couple. Some prefer to have shouting matches where they can get everything out whereas others sit down and discuss things. Understand what is right for you two and use it to avoid misunderstandings.
Spend some quality time together
When you are surrounded by responsibilities, you often forget to spend time with each other. Even though you don’t realize it, this will just create a distance between the two of you, which is going to increase day by day. There may come a time when it is impossible to cover that distance. To prevent this from happening, you need to spend some quality time with your spouse. Spend some time alone so you can both can talk and connect once again. You will fall back into your initial rhythm.
One way for you to recapture your feelings for each other is to establish old traditions rather than revisit old ones. Do you have a family now? You can establish shared viewpoints and experiences by marking birthdays, anniversaries or other unique occasion with a ritual that’s important or meaningful to the two of you. This provides you with the opportunity of your past years and make plans about the future.
Always be appreciative
One of the major reasons why love fades from a relationship is lack of appreciation. You need to appreciate your partner for the effort they make and ensure it is vocal. You can expect the same in return. Even a little appreciation can make a world of difference as it makes you feel valued, loved and cherished and you can also reciprocate the feelings to strengthen your bond.