Getting engaged is one of the happiest moments in a person’s life. The excitement of planning a wedding and spending the rest of your life with the one you love is magical, and everyone is happy to share in your happiness and celebrate with you. However, while a wedding signifies your love and commitment to one another, there are certain things all couples should consider before tying the knot.
Make Sure You Want the Same Things
As you grow older, your ideals and goals are likely to change, so why wouldn’t the same happen to your partner? You might have been together for a long time, but when was the last time you spoke to each other about what you want from your relationship and future? Before you wed, make sure you both still want the same things and are happy to move forward together to achieve your shared goals.
Weddings aren’t cheap, and financial strain can be one of the biggest issues couples have. You might have visions of how your dream wedding will be, but keep in mind this might cost a small fortune to pull off. You need to discuss your wedding budget together as a couple and agree on one that you’re both comfortable with. You should also make sure that you both have equal input regarding your wedding plans – the day is about both of you, not just one person.
Consider a Prenuptial Agreement
A lot of people might think that a prenuptial agreement is expecting the worst, but this simply isn’t the case. The reality is that sometimes marriages don’t work out, and although yours might last a lifetime, having something in place to protect your interests as an individual isn’t an unreasonable request. This doesn’t mean you don’t trust your partner; it’s just a way to give you both peace of mind. Attorneys that specialize in family law can help you both draw up a prenuptial agreement if this is something you want to do.
Planning a wedding can be incredibly stressful at times, and this can test couples. If there have been any tensions between the two of you since your engagement, whether that’s wedding-related or not, you should have some sessions with a professional therapist as a couple. This can provide a safe space for you both to speak to each other about what’s bothering you without turning into a full-blown row. Having an unbiased individual there to help you both get a fresh perspective and find a healthy resolution to your problems is a great way for you both to move forward.
As mentioned above, planning a wedding can get overwhelming and take up a lot of your time. A month or so before the big day, go away with each other for a long weekend so you can both relax and spend some quality time together alone. It’s a good way to reconnect as a couple and an opportunity for you both to get excited about the wedding rather than worrying about ‘to-do’ lists.
If you want to start married life as a happy couple, consider doing these things before you tie the knot to make sure you’re both on the same page.